Leaning out your life is a process. It is a process in all three realms of life, physical, mental, and spiritual. The goal of this week’s training is to give you methods that will help you lean out your life so that you may have a clear path to your goals.
Leaning out your life is the process of thinning out or eliminating excess from your life. The leaner you are in life physically, mentally, and spiritually the easier it is to reach your goals. Being leaner allows you to run faster and jump higher by dropping excess body weight in a physical sense. A leaner mind will enable you to focus better and complete more tasks by letting go of old grudges mentally. In a spiritual sense, a leaner spirit will allow you to experience more peace in your life by forgiving yourself of any mistakes you made in your past.
Excess in your life can become clutter. There is no worse thing in the world then clutters. Clutter is when there are piles of distractions that busy up your life. There is an old tradition that my wife taught me that you must clean the entire house before the new year. You eliminate the clutter by throwing out everything that doesn’t belong in your home next year. This process symbolizes a clean slate, and the same technique is used at companies. Most companies file all old paperwork and throw out anything irrelevant to the company in the next year.
There are three forms of clutter that everybody encounters in their life:
- Physical clutter: This type of clutter can range from piles of clothes on the floor of your room to stacks of paper at your desk. The extreme version is a hoarder. Imagine the crazy person who never throws away anything and lives in a house filled with magazine mountains, toy piles, and a couple of stray cats. They get nothing done. They are so distracted by the mountains of stuff around them that they have no room for new things to be added to their house. Physical clutter can also be internal, and it can manifest itself as excess fat on your body.
- Mental clutter: This type of clutter can range from unexplored ideas such as book ideas, business ideas, movie ideas, etc., to thoughts of the tasks you need to do for the next day. These thoughts are great until they pile up to the point where you can’t execute any of
- Spiritual clutter: This is the worst type of clutter because it can be the hardest to clear out. This type of clutter ranges from hatred for people, unforgiveness for loved ones, and any kind of fear. This clutter causes you to have a hardened heart and a closed mind, keeping you from achieving your goals or receiving new.
Now that you understand what clutter is.
How do you
"Lean out your life"?
There are five methods that I used to lean out my life that has worked wonders for me. These methods have allowed me to have a clearer mind, a leaner body, and a more peaceful spirit.
Method #1: Lean out your Mind!
Clear your thoughts. Find out what ideas are causing you to be distracted and eliminate them from your mind. For example, I find myself thinking about creating more content for my YouTube channel or website. Then I would think about the strategies to what content I should make, and eventually, I wouldn't create anything because all the ideas I had cluttered my mind. I would come up with tons of ideas, and before I could set my mind to start working on one, I would be distracted by another thought. This happens all the time to people, and more often than none, it becomes a person's downfall.
Some of these thoughts may lead to million-dollar business ideas or books, and some of these thoughts may look so silly written out, you would be happy to get rid of them. The first step is to get them out of your head. Much like clearing out a closet filled with old clothes to make room for new ones, clear out your old thoughts to make room for new ones.
Now that you see your thoughts written out. Lean out your mind by selecting one idea to focus on then get rid of the rest. Use a black sharpie or ballpoint pen to scratch out the other nine ideas. It’s going to be tough because naturally, we want to hold on to our thoughts, but you must eliminate them to lean out your mind. This process is how you clear out the mental clutter from your mind.
Using this method, you will focus better because now your mind is clutter-free and ready to focus.
Method #2: Lean out your Friends!
This is a tough one because no one wants to end a friendship, but some friendships can be detrimental to your life. On the other hand, some friendships can be a massive asset to your life. The only way you can see the difference is by leaning out your friends.
How do you do this?
There are two ways. Determine which friends are your anchors and which ones are your trampolines?
An anchor friend is one who brings you down. It may not be noticeable at first, but they drag you down by asking you to do things that go against your belief system, or they support you going off track from your dream. For example, a friend who allows you to quit on your dream by saying things like "it's ok you probably wouldn't have made it anyway" or "maybe you should try something else” is an anchor. They are the negative nooses that pull you down by your ankles as you strive to get to success. These are the people who tempt you to quit; they tempt you to stay away from your goal or tempt you to pick a new goal that is less threatening to them.
Now, this is going to be tough. Get rid of those friends from your life. Delete their numbers, block them from social media, whatever you must do to distance yourself from them. You must remove people from your life that hold you back. You cannot excel to greater heights in your life with unnecessary weight around your ankles.
The process is tough to do but imagine running a race with a 40lb weight vest every day. You eventually get used to it. It becomes a part of your daily training, and you start racing with it on. You begin to sleep with it on; you even begin to win with it on. Eventually, you don’t notice the vest anymore. The vest becomes comforting. You’ve had it on for so long that it has molded to your body. It keeps you warm; it has pockets to hold your stuff. You have stitched your name in it. It’s now a part of you.
Then one day, you are allowed to run the biggest race of your life. This race will be long, and it will be tough. You will need all your strength and energy you finish. Your coach says you can win this race easily. All you have to do is take off your vest and never put it back on again. It sounds like an easy answer, drop the vest and win the race., but most people cannot drop their vests when it’s something that has been a part of them for so long. The vest represents these anchor friends. People you grew up with who won’t let go of the mindset you grew out of. The vest represents family members who believe their way is the law, and you only keep allowing them in your life because they are your part of your bloodline. As much as it hurts to drop these people from your life, you have to take off your vest if you want to win your race.
Now it's time to identify the trampoline friends in your life. These are the people that boost you up. These are the people that propel you to new heights in life. These are the people that continue to make you excel. A trampoline friend is on that no matter what you do, finds a way to absorb the energy you give them, negative or positive, and uses it to accelerate your growth in life. For example, one of my best friends, Rob, had always criticized my work when it wasn’t good enough. He never gave me anything less than his honest opinion, and because of that, I went from getting cut from my high school basketball team to making a semi-pro basketball team. I also became a better personal trainer because he paid so much attention to detail; he could point out the flaws in my routine and help me design better ones for my clients.
My wife has also been a trampoline in my life. She absorbs all my negativity and positivity and uses it to say what is necessary to excel. No matter how angry I get, she gives me what I need for me to progress, and even if I can’t see it right then, I always benefit from her teachings.
When you identify the anchors and trampolines in your life, it will not be easy to clear them out. To make this process easier, think about this question.
What happens to an anchor with no chain?
It falls to the bottom of the ocean and cannot be recovered because it weighs too much to waste the effort to get it.
Now think about a trampoline you put in the backyard; you play with it all the time. It propels you aerial to heights you could not reach on your own power. It also absorbs your weight when you fall back to it, uses your weight as energy, and sends you up higher.
Use that analogy to lean out your friends. Think about your friends that are anchors. Let them sink out of your life. Think about your friends that are trampolines. Let them catch you when you fall. What seems like criticism is just them using your energy to push you up higher.
Method #3: Lean out your Business!
If you own or manage a business, there is nothing worse than clutter in your business. This clutter can be old reports—insubordinate employees, or old habits that lead to bad business practices.
Leaning out your business is easy. Keep it simple.
Focus on mastering one aspect of the business, then try to excel at its most profitable portion. For example, as a personal trainer, my specialty is group classes, instead of offering one-on-one training, small groups, and specialty training. Since I only offer group classes, I can focus on being the best in one area, and it allows me to have a clear vision for my product that I can, as a result, leads to more sales.
Having too many business ideas causes clutter in your business. It will cause you to lose money working on your business areas that are not relevant to your business's success. There are three ways to lean out your business:
- Create a business focal point. What are you known for?
- Ensure your business is aligned with your personal goals. You must do what you love for a living?
- Calculate a financial goal that you can reach and meet that goal.
Once you have these three key points written down, create a game plan to reach these goals. Creating a game plan will streamline your focus and allow you to be successful in your business.
Finally, have an end game. We can’t live forever, so don’t spend your life on the hamster wheel. Create a working timeline for your business by setting a retirement dollar amount (the amount of money you want to make that will allow you to retire), a retirement date, and a successor to keep your business going. Creating endpoints will help you work harder to build your business, and it will give you more mental relief when it’s time to let go of your business. Having an end game will keep you stress-free and in a state of consistent motivation to reach the finish line. Don’t be greedy; if your business overshoots your expectations keep that tunnel vision approach towards your goals.
In the end, you will be able to rest a lot better when it is all over.
Method #4: Lean out your Body!
Leaning out your body might be the easiest method on this list because leaning out your body is based on two components;
Limit your food intake. Increase your cardio.
The less you eat, the fewer calories you intake. The more cardio you do (running, jogging, walking, etc.) The more calories you burn. Fewer calories in, with more calories being burned, equals a lean body.
Now that is easier said than done; you must find time for cardio; you must endure hunger pain. These two feats are not easy to achieve, hence why the obesity rate is climbing. Now, if you want to know why leaning out your body is essential for reducing clutter, Imagine this:
Your body is like a car; your heart is the engine, the transmission is your organs, the frame is your bones, and the mechanical interface that controls the GPS, air conditioner, radio, Bluetooth, etc., is your brain. When you allow gunk to clog up your engine and don't get it cleared, you need a new engine. When transmission fluid is not changed regularly, your transmission will need to be changed. When a fuse blows out, your whole system will start acting up, and a battery may need to be changed. All these changes (repairs) cost time and money. If you cant make them, most likely you will buy a new car.
Car lovers always lean out their vehicles by getting rid of lousy oil, changing out fluids, fuses, and having regular checkups by mechanics. Even old work trucks that have been used for years last a long time when maintained correctly.
These same concepts apply to lean out your body. You must lean out your heart by not clogging your arteries with unhealthy food. You must clean out your intestines by consuming the right amounts of fiber; you must always stay hydrated to cleanse your overall system. You must consume brain foods to keep your mental health intact. You must exercise daily to burn more calories than consumed and make working out a habit.
Leaning out your body leads to a longer life and better health. Leaning out your body will increase your confidence if weight loss is your goal, or if you are bulking up, then get big!
Leaning out your body will help with the other methods of leaning out your life because it allows you to clear out the different areas of your life in various ways.
- Exercise requires space, which means you need to lean out your area and clear the clutter from your
- Exercise requires time, which means you must spend less time with your friends who are anchors.
- Exercise requires focus, which means you need to clear the clutter from your mind to focus on your fitness goals.
Method #5: Lean out your Spirit!
Leaning out your spirit means to get rid of the things in your life that promote bad intentions such as hatred, anxiety, anger, depression, and complacency.
The best way to lean out your spirit is to find something to believe in. Believing in something refocuses your spirit on a more significant entity that trumps the negativity trying to tear you down. For example, people who believe in God focus their spirits on God. They use the church as an outlet to lean out their spirits. Most spiritual teachings focus on letting go of anger and hatred towards others. Developing a spiritual focus on God gives people a space to drop their negative emotions and leave them for God to get rid of.
How does this process lean out your spirit?
Let's go back to sports. There is an iconic picture of Olympic Gold Medalist Michael Phelps swimming to another gold medal victory, and his opponent is focused on him. In contrast, Michael Phelps is focused on the finish line. The picture is iconic because it symbolizes how no matter what strife comes against your spirit, you will not be affected as long as you focus on a goal. Eventually, these issues disappear because you have shifted your focus to a higher power, and since you are not feeding these negative entities, they starve and die, which leans out your spirit.
Imagine getting rid of cancer cells by starving them out of your body. It's the same process. Starve negativity out of your spirit to lean it out. Starving negativity out of your spirit is a challenging process, but just like fasting is tough on the body due to hunger pains, it's the best medicine for your body in the long run.
Starving your negative spirit is challenging because it requires getting rid of negative friends, emotions, and habits. It requires you to replace them with practices such as forgiving people and being nice to people even when you don’t feel like it. In the long run, you will receive that lean spirit you seek, which manifests as inner peace that allows you to have a better life.
In conclusion, leaning out your life is beneficial in all three areas (mind, body, and spirit). You must pay close attention to the clutter around you and take the time to filter through it.
Lean out your mind by exploring only the thoughts that matter the most to your life.
Lean out your business if you have one. Clear out old files. Delete old game plans that haven’t been explored in years. Focus on what is profitable.
Lean out your friends. Identify your friends that are anchors and your friends that are trampolines.
Lean out your body by creating healthy habits. Eat fewer fatty foods, burn calories by doing at least 30 minutes of cardio a day.
Lastly, lean out your spirit by forgiving people. You cannot walk around life weighed down by negativity, and most of the negativity that you carry around is the negativity inflicted on you by others.